Proses berkhatan for newborn babies

Assalamualaikum new mommies! haaa i nak shre sikit my experience for my newborn baby about proses berkhatan. Sesiapa yang mendapat baby boy confirm akan bertanya2 'bila nak sunat kan anak kita ni yer?' trust me, I've been back and forth about nak 'sunat' kan my baby at this early age, kejup I told husband 'ok kita tunggu dia dah besar sikit, let him feel the pain, baru lah lelakiii, perempuan rasa sakit bersalin, lelaki rasa sakit bersunat lahh' thennn a few seconds later I change my mind again 'but nanti kalau dah besar nanti, if dia buat hal tak nak sunat cmana? takut lah itu lah ini lah, takut bentan lah, kena pantang macam2 lagi' pastu pikir plak 'tapi kesian la masa baby dah bersunat, kesian dia nanti sakit, dia tak paham erti sakit lagi kan'.

Seriously, this is the hardest decision I have to make in my life! berminggu pikir just to decide when nak 'sunat' kan my baby. So, lepas berpuluh2 orang I tanya, kebanyakkan nya berpendapat untuk sunat masa baby, why? sebab they said senang nak jaga and healing process tu very2 fast.

Also, I baru tahu yang bersunat ni actually masa baby pun dah boleh buat, I thought tunggu dieorg dah besar je, sebab my brother and cousins bersunat masa dieorg dah besar, that's why I thought macam tu, sekaliiii the other way round pulak.

Terdapat beberapa Hadith yang menyatakan bahawa sunat seawal tujuh hari selepas kelahiran ni banyak manfaat nya. Ini diantara hadith yang I jumpa:-

Dari Jabir bin 'Abdillah ra : bahawa Rasulullah SAW melaksanakan aqiqah Hassan dan Hussain serta mengkhatan mereka berdua pada hari ketujuh (HR: Thabrani dan Baihaqi)

Dari Ibnu 'Abbas Ra berkata: "Terdapat tujuh perkara yang termasuk sunnah dilakukan bayi pada hari ketujuh iaitu 'diberi nama dan dikhatankan.', (HR: Thabrani)

Dari Abu Ja'far ra berkata , "Fatimah melaksanakan aqiqah anaknya pada hari ketujuh. Beliau juga mengkhatankan dan mencukur rambutnya serta mensedekahkan perak seberat timbangan rambutnya.", (HR: Ibnu Abi Syaibah)

Manfaat jika bersunat pada usia bayi adalah proses pemulihan sangat cepat, seawal 3-7 hari kerana bayi tiada pantang, mereka hanya minum susu sahaja dan juga risiko 'infection' dan 'bentan' sangat rendah kerana bayi masih lagi belum boleh berjalan, melompat dan selainnya.

Doktor pakar telah menasihati kami jika boleh khatan kan bayi lelaki sebulan ke bawah ini kerana bayi yang melebihi sebulan akan banyak bergerak dan akan menganggu proses berkhatan dan juga 'bebird' meraka masih kecil dan tidak menyakitkan.

Where?

Ok, so we finally decided untuk khatan kan our boy at age 2 months old, why 2 months? sebab both of us memang tak tahu about bersunat masa bayi ni, so as recommended by most of our friends, kita telah memilih KPJ, Damansara Specialist Centre sebagai tempat berkhatan our baby.



Dekat sana we meet up with one of the specialist named 'Dr. Abdul Razak', he is very nice, friendly and most importantly very gentle with babies. Masa nak gi tu memang berdebar sangat, tak tahu what will happen to my baby, meragam teruk ke lepas tu? ok ke ? so many questions playing in my mind. Lepas jumpa Doctor Razak, he said baby akan menangis sikit masa nak masuk kan ubat bius tu and tak selesa sebab kaki dia kena ikat (disebabkan baby dah melebihi sebulan dan dah pandai bergerak and protes) ohh and also baby kena puasa sejam sebelum proses khatan dimulakan.

More info about Dr Razak, you can visit:-
http://www.kpjdamansara.com.my/project/dr-abdul-razak-mohammed/


outfit masa nak gi sana, baby hanya pakai macam biasa iaitu baby romper (risau gak sebab takut bebird dia sakit ke apa kan pakai baju tu) and also we bring extra diaper, clothes (in case anything happen).

Throughout the khatan process, baby only cry masa mula2 je, lepas tu dia dah relax dah, bila baby nangis sikit2 je, doctor akan cakap 'sorry' kat baby, comel je kan. So, proses berkhatan dengan Dr Razak ni dalam 20 mins sahaja and Dr Razak ni hanya menggunakan kaedah 'laser'. Masa berkhatan tu mommy and daddy can be inside the room (di dalam bilik doctor) if baby dah reach 5 months ke atas baru baby dimasukkan ke dalam operation room.

Lepas selesai berkhatan, doctor kata treat baby seperti biasa, terkejut betul dengar masa tu, macam serious ar as usual? tak sakit ke bebird dia nanti? so yes, we did treat our baby macam biasa tak perlu nak longgar kan diaper semua, cuma jangan mandi untuk first day je, keesokan hari baru boleh mandikan baby seperti biasa.

Habis je sunat, we immediately kasi our baby susu untuk kasi macam reward lah for him sebab dah sunat kan hehe and you have to wait 30 mins at doctor's clinic untuk tengok keadaan baby, jika baby meragam teruk, doctor akan kasi paracetemol to baby, if baby tenang, no need to take any.

As for myself, Alhamdulillah my baby behave so well, dia tak meragam pun and ubat yang doctor kasi hanya cream sahaja untuk letak dekat around his bebird, lepas balik tu doctor ada kata that he will cry sikit masa dia nak kencing untuk pertama kali, lepastu dia ok dah (which is sooo trueee) Our baby only cry masa first time dia kencing je, lepastu dia relax dah and masa nak change diaper dia for the first time tu surprisingly takde blood stain pun dekat diaper dia, clean sgt2, kalau ada pun dekat bebird tu ada macam kuning2 (bukan nanah) which is air luka and sikit je tak banyak pun.

Dr Razak also said, hari ke-5 nanti benang akan tanggal sendirinya dan tak perlu datang lagi untuk follow up check up, So Alhamdulillah, dah hari ke 7 selepas bersunat , our baby dah fully healed, yayy!!! lega sangat2 bila our baby dah bersunat, phewwww.

Ohhh ya! one more thing, parents don't worry, Dr Razak said there is no such thing as 'kulit tumbuh balik' jika bersunat masa baby, it only happen if the doctor tak potong carefully , So far dah ramai patients bersunat with Dr.Razak, takde satu pun yang datang balik kata kulit tumbuh, so my advice to you is, choose the right doctor for your baby, Insyallah everything will be alright!

All the best parents! ingat, pilih yang terbaik for your precious one!


Signing off,
The 13th

Vaccines for newborn babies

Hello babies, Apparently after your baby was born, doctor will recommend you to take these three types of injections for your little one:-

Vitamin K

Vitamin K helps the blood to clot and prevents serious bleeding. In newborns, Vitamin K injections can prevent a now rare, but potentially fatal, bleeding disorder called 'Vitamin K deficiency bleeding' (VKDB) also known as 'haemorrhagic disease of the newborn' (HDN)

BCG

BCG (Bacille Calmette Guerin) is a vaccine given to babies to protect them from serious forms of Tuberculosis (TB) such as TB Meningitis (an infection of the brain) and Miliary TB (Wide spread infection)

For this vaccine, it takes 4 weeks or more for it to works,Once your baby reached 1 month old, you will notice at his/her upper left arm a red bump (like a mosquitoes bite) and it will keep on growing until it pop a yellowish fluid and automatically it becomes a scar. Which is a good thing and means that the BCG works on your baby, if it did not pop then you should be worry and your baby might need to take this vaccine again.

Hepatitis B

The Hepatitis B shot helps to protect your child from potentially serious disease. Children with Hepatitis B usually don't have any symptoms but they may pass the disease to others without anyone knowing they are infected. Also it helps your child prevent from developing liver disease and cancer from Hepatitis B. Lastly, keeps your child from missing school or child care.

Parents, no worries ok , I took these three vaccines for my baby too and Alhamdulillah he is doing fine with it, no side effects, no fever, and he is perfectly normal. If you have any doubt about this, please do discuss it first with your healthcare.

Signing off,

The 13th

   

Someone new is in your home!

Tadaaaa, now you can go home with your baby! Excited right?! hehe,

At first, you may feel a bit haywire on what you have to do first, well, take it easy, We know its not easy to take care of newborn , just do not stress yourself out, you just gave birth and you should take care of yourself too, give time to yourself and take it slow. 

Hubby, now is the best time for you to involve in this new routine, help your wife too.

Your wife is in a very weak condition now, she can't walk properly, she has lost so much energy while giving birth to your precious little one, just give her some time to relax first and you may help her with all the housework duty, cook for her, wash all the dirty clothes, clean up the house, take care of the baby and also not to forget take care of your wife too. At this stage, your wife need a lot attention from you, just be there for her! I'm so glad my hubs took care of me while I was in my confinement for 44 days. Thank You Husband, I love you!

After the first few days getting use to settling down with your baby, you will understand the routine, it takes time to understand your baby, sooner or later you will get there! baby and you need time to understand each other.

Signing off,
The 13th

First time Mom preparations

Hello first time mommies! Welcome to Motherhood!!

Since you already know the sex of your baby in 2nd trimester and now is the time for you to prepare your baby stuff before he/she arrives!

What are the things you need to buy for your first baby?? hmmmmm....As for me, I did a lot of research in finding the good brands of each product for my little one, It was hard to decide which one is the best and long lasting. Lucikily, friends and families help a lot by sharing their experiences so I finally know which to buy! hehe

Diaper

I didn't buy any diaper during the first three weeks because I receive a lot of FREE samples before deciding on which brand to buy, one of the brands I received was 'Mami Pokko', 'Drypers', 'Huggies', 'Genki', 'Offspring' and other brand as well (I can't remember the names)

So , after my baby turn 1 month old and have tried all brands on him, we finally found out which are not suitable for my baby, they said not all diapers are suitable for your baby, it depends on their skin too, some baby tend to rash a lot because of their skin sensitivity, some baby are okay with any kind of diaper, so it really depends.

As for me, We have finally choose "Huggies" , why? what I heard, baby boy tend to peed and pooped  a lot, some of the brands I have tried leaked a lot but with Huggies it minimize the leaking (it still leaks but out of 20 times a day changing , perhaps only 3-4 times leak)

Newborn change A LOT!!! so try to use cheap diaper first, in my experience for the first two weeks my baby pooped every feeding time, as he grows 4 weeks old, he pooped once or twice a day but still peed a lot which requires a numbers of changing. For me Huggies are affordable, RM 30( plus) for over 80 pieces diapers.

This is Newborn size and later when he is reaching 1 month old, we changed sizes to S

Currently we are using this, Size S and 80 pcs for RM30 (plus)

Milk

Speaking about this gives me a goosebumps , the price of milk is super duper expensiveeeeeee. Due to some reasons I have trouble to breast feed my baby, So I had to mix both breast milk and formula milk.

The milk that we are using is Enfalac A+, This milk is quite costly and we are buying 180gram for RM189 which we get three boxes of milk inside one box. So far, our baby is not allergic to this milk, he's been pooping normally and he totally love this milk!

Enfalac A+ step 1 (0-12months)

Breast Pump

You can buy breast pump if you are planning to breast feed your baby fully, Since the pricing of breast pump are also quite costly, you can try to look for best deals or any promotion to save up a little.

I have been using 'Spectra - M1' as this is recommended by all the doctors and nurses , it is made in Korea and the pricing is not too expensive like 'Medela'.

We bought 'Spectra M1' during baby expo in Mid Valley, which cost us for RM 499 for double pumping, two bottles and five level of suctions.

Wet Wipes

A LOT and A LOT and A LOTTTTTT of wet wipes!! 

We have been using 'Pureen' wet wipes for 100pcs, Usually this brand offers a great deal, recently we bought 2 for RM 11.90 only and you need zillions of it!

Baby Cradle

Not many people wants their baby to sleep in their own cot but as for myself, I would like to train my baby to get use to sleep at his own space, besides both me and my partner afraid if we put the baby one bed with us the pillows or blankets might covers up his face without us noticing it.

To be safe, it is always best to have his own bed. I have decided to buy a smaller cot which is light, foldable and easy for travelling. 'Pouch' is the brand we have decided to get for our baby, We bought it for RM 399 only (N/P: RM 499). 

The best thing about this cot is I can turn the cot into a swinging mode or stay mode by just turning one of the parts upside down. Also, the nets are see through which is easier for me to monitor my baby during my sleep and it is standard level as your bed (the disadvantage of this product is you are unable t adjust the height of the cot) .

Baby's Clothing

Newborn tend to grow super fast, so my advice is try not to buy many newborn clothes, you can still buy it but not too much. Now my baby is 1 month and a few days old and all his newborn clothing is a bit too tight for him, luckily we only bought a few of them, phewww.

Mittens, socks and hat are very important for newborn babies, they are still small and take times to adapt with new surrounding, their hands and feet need protection! some people against babies to wear mittens , that is mostly because of their long sharp nails which can cause scratches on their face.

For Swaddle, I love 'Swaddle Me' brand, because it is an instant swaddle and it is so much easier compared to the manual ones, My baby hate to be inside the swaddle 

For newborn clothing, try to find a soft material that is comfortable for the baby to wear. Also you may need to buy a swaddle so that the baby feels safe as if someone holding them throughout their sleep.

Baby's Grooming Kit

Not everyone highlight the importance of this grooming kit, Once your baby out from our tummy the baby have a very long nails, so you need to cut it straight away to prevent scratches 

Other than that, hair brushes is needed once your baby freshen up his body and time to play with his hair! hehe

Also not to forget thermometer! this is very important for newborn babies, mommies gotta invest a bit on this to get an accurate reading of your babies temperture. I bought 'Microlife' brand for 

RM 150 at Guardians drug store.

Baby's Stroller / Carrier

Oh god this is the most headache part, I am sooooo confuse on which best stroller to buy, At first I wanted to get 'Doona' Stroller, but then when I tried it, I felt its too lowered and it can only be use for 0-12 months old.

 I am looking for a stroller that can be use for a long period up until 0-5 years, then later I found 'Joie' Stroller 'Meet Pact'. What I like about this stroller is, it is light and easy for me to carry around, also it is easy for me to fold the stroller , and lastly it also comes with a carrier!

Stretch Mark Cream

It's my first time to use this product, I heard 'Mederma' is well known with smoothen or lighten scars, So I give it a shot to try out 'Mederma' Stretch Mark Cream. Hope it works! and please be gone stretch mark!! ohh the smells of this cream is very calming too ~

Baby Warm Cream

This cream to help babies from colic, coughing, flu, Asthma and Phlegm, it helps to warm up babies bodies and babies will feel so relax and no worries the heat from this cream is very light and suitable for babies, 100% safe! My baby loves it very much! I will apply it every time  after changing diapers to prevent from colic (specially!)! This 'Tropika' cream is very well know among mummies, one cream will cost you for RM 39.90. 

So far these are the things that I think will help you out with your newborn babies! 

Don't be stress, enjoy every moment of it and have fun taking care of your newborn!!!

Signing off,

The 13th

The Final stage, 3rd Trimester! Hello Baby!

Now this is the last stage of pregnancy, enjoy every moment of it because trust me you will be missing talking to your tummy at night or even eat as much as you can without feeling guilty over your big round stomach

Make sure to do as much reading about pregnancy before your baby's arrival, this will help you to prepare mentally and physically. Raising a newborn obviously a tough job for every first time mum (I am one of them!) why? because we don't know why our babies crying over and over again, wondering if your baby in pain? is he still hungry? is it colic cause the pain? why this and why that, but itsokay take deep breathe and relax for a few seconds to clear up your mind, you will be doing just fine! trust me I've been there and done that, I am still learning day by day to understand my baby.

Since this is the last stage of your pregnancy, I would like to congratulate to every moms out there for passing by the first two's trimester, on this very last trimester is the wonderful part, your baby is going to meet you soon! 

Tick tock tick tock, Baby is coming! look out for all the possible signs for your baby's arrival such as water breaking, blood show and frequent contractions.

At first I am so confused on how contractions feel like, some said like a period pain, some said like a zillion times harder period pain feeling, and some said you will definitely know that is contractions. Later, when my time comes, oh god! yes! I definitely know that is contractions for sure! 

During labor, my water didn't break but I am having a blood show, at first few hours a little blood came out, but later a blood covering up the whole panty liner, I was worried if something bad happen to the baby and I quickly rushed to the hospital and was immediately checked in in delivery room. Apparently after all the check ups, the nurses said I was dilated for 1cm ONLY, but my contractions are so strong but not consistent. They said if you are so close to labor, your contractions must be consistent and strong. So, doctor advice me to go back home and do a lot of walking for a smooth delivery.

We did went back home and later in the evening we went for a walk for an hour duration. I also climbed many stairs to put a little bit of pressure for it to dilate more. At night, I noticed I am having a frequent contractions and not so strong, also my panty liner filled with blood again. So we rushed back to the hospital, and doctor said I am 2cm dilated. I was admitted in the hospital on 1st April 2018. While waiting for me to dilate fully to 10cm, I can say from 1cm -4cm is a bearable pain, it is still painful but you can handle it by taking a long deep breathe and breathe out slowly (this really works!). 

After I am reaching 5cm, goshhh the pain is unbearable and I couldn't take it, I feel like pushing the baby out at 5cm but the nurses told me not too because it could damage my sensitive area. After a long hours bearing the pain, I have finally decided to take two types of pain relief, at first I am trying on 'Laughing gass' they said it can help you reduce the pain and makes you feel relax but nope! totally doesn't work with me!! So I decided to take 'Epidural', it works like magic! my lower body parts immediately feels numb and I totally don't feel any pain from the contractions, while waiting for me to dilate fully, I am able to sleep for 2 hours before the shows start! 

After almost 20 hours in labor, My baby is finally out from my womb with normal delivery and he was born on 2nd April 2018 at 1.50am. Seeing him for the first time its truly a wonderful moment ever!

My baby was born in Tropicana Medical Centre (TMC) in Kota Damansara, if any of you would like to deliver in TMC, I would recommend my wonderful doctor, Dr Nurhazinat. She is awesome, she will do the best she can to make sure you are having a normal delivery. She so calm and relax throughout the delivery process. I couldn't thank her more for everything she did for me and my baby. Our monthly check ups also went well, Dr Hazinat will make sure your body is in a good condition before the baby arrives! 

Also another doctor I would recommend is Dr.Navdeep, He is also one of the best doctor (through my experience). When I fell sicked quite badly during my first trimester, Dr.Nurhazinat wasn't around by that time and I had to meet up another specialist, so one of the staff recommended me to meet with Dr.Navdeep. He is also very calm and pleasing, he will explain carefully and gently to you of what's gonna happen, he is also very nice, Thank you for taking care of me too doctor! 

I just love both of them!

Mommies, It may sounds or look scary, but trust me if I can do it, so do you! just trust your instinct and do what's the best for you and your baby. You can do it! All the best Mommies!

Signing off,

The 13th

2nd Trimester strikes in!

Alhamdulillah , I have passed my crucial first trimester stage. Now I'm in my 2nd trimester, Luckily I felt much better and my bump starts to show, this is when everyone will ask whether I am pregnant or not.

The best part in your second trimester is to get to know the sex of your baby!! Whether its a boy or girl! pink or blue? hehe. I was so excited to find out the sex of my baby,  but I kinda have a feeling its going to be a cute baby boy while others kept on saying I'm going to have a baby girl.

At 16 - 20 weeks is the excited moment, your doctor will reveal your baby's gender!! We are super nervous to know the gender and to see who guess correctly, and yes after all the scanned has done, we are having a baby BOY!!! (see i was right)

Hello my baby boy, Mommy truly can't wait for your arrival, please grow well in mommy's tummy ok! I wurve you little one!

Signing off,

the 13th

Hello First Trimester !

Hello First Trimester!

Alhamdulillah I finally got a chance to feel what others feel. I shall say for my first trimester experience has gone pretty well, Alhamdulillah I have no morning sickness, no other weird things as well, but I am easily fell sicked , such as high fever, conjunctivitis,  flu and coughing. 

According to my doctor, She said during pregnancy our antibody is very low and that is why we are prone to all kind of sickness. So in my case, during my last month of first trimester, high fever attacked me very badly, I was in high temperature (39-40) for 3-4 days and I was bleeding quite heavily from it too.

We immediately went for a check up to see if my fever affected the baby, the doctor said we made a good move to straight away come to the hospital. Luckily, the baby is safe but doctor said if my fever won't stop cooling down, the baby may be stress and he felt extremely hot like an oven inside the tummy.

I was so worried for my baby, later I was admitted for further check ups, the next day my fever reading was still at 39-40 Celsius, even the doctor said there may be a 50/50 chances for the baby to survive, I cried after hearing about it, I keep on praying and hoping my baby is strong and hope he survive towards the end of my pregnancy. 

The next day, Alhamdulillah my temperature reading was down rapidly and I am back to my normal temperature. Doctor said my baby seems normal and his heartbeat / blood flow are all normal. I am so thankful to hear that my baby is okay. 

Thank you for being so strong my little Munchkin. So yeah, that's my experience for my first trimester, it was a horror feeling ever!!! Once I was discharged from the hospital, I was told to bed rest for quite a long time to stop the bleeding. Thankfully everything is back to normal and my munchkin seems to be kicking quite hard day by day! *giggles*

Mommies, please do take care of yourself for the first three months of your pregnancy, it is really a crucial time for you to be active (like you always do), just remember always that you are pregnant and carrying someone inside your tummy, both of you need a lot of protection, eat all the vitamins to build a stronger body systems (with your doctor advise), rest and eat well too!

Signing off,

The 13th